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Romans 15:30

30Dear brothers and sisters, I urge you in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ to join in my struggle by praying to God for me. Do this because of your love for me, given to you by the Holy Spirit.

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Today, Justin Paul admits to something he’s always struggled with – and why it’s worth overcoming.

WBSGbio_JustinAsking for prayer is not a sign of weakness but wisdom. I’m just not very smart.

In my head, I can deal with it all by myself. I don’t need your help or anybody’s help. Pray for me? I don’t even want you to know that I’m struggling. I’VE GOT THIS!

Being vulnerable has never been easy for me. I care too much about what people think and I never want to be perceived as weak, helpless, or unable to handle my own struggles and mistakes. When I’m hurting, I don’t want anyone to know it.

However, God never intended for us to walk through our struggles alone. He’s placed people in my life who love me, care deeply about me, and who genuinely want the best for me. People who, at the drop of a hat (and I have a lot of hats), would gladly pray with me and for me. Something I’m learning is that asking for prayer doesn’t make you weak but rather shows you the strength of the community around you. Paul, a strong leader and the author of most of the New Testament, knew this and was never shy about sharing his struggles. He knew that he couldn’t do it on his own.

When my wife knows I’m stressed, overwhelmed, and have way too much on my plate, just hearing her say “What can I help you with?” lessens the burden. Even if there is absolutely nothing she can do, just knowing that she wants to help and support me is encouraging.

When you’re struggling or suffering, there may be nothing those closest to you can do to help EXCEPT pray for you. So let them. Don’t be afraid to share your struggles and hardships. Don’t be afraid to ask for prayer. There is power in prayer and in knowing that you don’t have to go through it alone.

Notes from the Beyond Suffering Bible

Ask for Prayer – Have you ever grown weary of asking others to pray for you? Paul was never shy about discussing his struggles in life with those he ministered to and asking them to intercede for his needs. Even though he was a leader, he knew he could not be effective for Christ on his own. Asking for prayer is not a sign of weakness but of wisdom.

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Unathi
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It’s good to admit this weakness of not wanting to ask for prayer (for help). Not wanting to ask for help, not wanting anyone to know about our struggles is pride. Plain and simple. I’ve struggled with pride for a LONG time, long before I ever knew it was a problem. It made my life miserable because it ruined relationships and stole my joy. A spiritual father to me once said,”Pride is a killer. Don’t let it destroy you.” Thankfully, God had already started showing me the problem. I also knew that this man of faith cared for me and… Read more »
Carmen Melissa
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Unathi, Thank you for sharing. I know I am not handling things and I need help. I believed that prayer was to be used for bigger struggles in life. You know the kind that you read/hear/see and immediately start praying for that person(s). If life ever got too much, I would eventually reach out to 3-4 prayer warriors and submit a one way prayer request online or via mail. Instead, I would tell myself to get it together…stop being pathetic…you are so blessed and you are being a weak self-dwelling person right now. Suck it up. Whoa….I too struggle with… Read more »
Mbamtx
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Praying for reliance on Him for us all. Thank you for sharing. Amen.

Terri
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Amen! Pride is definitely a sin I have to deal with on a regular basis. Thankfully, God has made me aware of it and like you I have to confess it and give it to Him. It is such a deeply rooted sin that so easily rears its ugly head so often before I realize it is there. So I am asking for all of you to pray for me. Wow, that was easier than I thought it would be….probably because I don’t know any of you, but it is a start! Thank you!

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All of us can relate to the struggle of pride, thanks for sharing and we will be praying for you!

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Thanks for sharing and for the encouragement to keep each other in prayer!

Patti
Member

I struggle with pride as well. It’s a constant daily struggle as a single mom who tries to act like I can do it all by myself.

Asher
Member

I’m finding it difficult to find a community I can pray with. I’m quite an independent and private person, so that makes asking for prayer hard for me too! Despite that, I do love the peace that comes with knowing someone’s praying and caring for you. It’s what encourages me to pray for others, and let them know they’re in my thoughts. Thanks for reminding me that nobody has to struggle alone, Justin!

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Asher, we are praying that you will find a community to trust and pray with. It doesn’t have to be anymore than one other person sometimes. I’m reminded of the scripture in Matthew 18:20 where Jesus is letting us know that it doesn’t need to be a large group. Praying that you will find one or two!

Doris Ripczinski
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Over the past 8 years, my prayers for my drug addicted son, were the BEST thing I could have done for him. The prayers for Me from family and friends were the Best thing I could have gotten. Many times I have heard people say… Well, all we can do is pray. I want to let anyone who needs to hear this…Prayer is the Best Thing to Get band Give!!
Thank you Lord!

MarMar
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Thank you for this reminder. I too have had prayer warriors pray with and for me about my alcoholic son. The peace and grace I feel from their prayers are amazing and I thank God for this umbrella of strength. You are so right about it being the Best Thing to both get and give.
God Bless!

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MarMar, we are praying for your son and his dependence on alcohol – that he will allow God to fill him up instead and he will find healing.

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Doris, we will be praying alongside of you for your son and his healing from addiction.

damarysv
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Thank you for this words. It is hard to ask for prayers and share your struggles when you think you are going to be judged. That is what the enemy wants to isolate us. Let’s band together in prayer and love.

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You are right! It can be difficult to know who to trust. We are praying that each person who needs a safe community will find one and be able to know that God is present.

T Swift
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Through my struggle with depression, God has taught me how important it is to ask for help (including and especially prayer), and also to receive it. So many times when people would offer, I would say, “No, I’ve got this,” or “Everything’s fine,” when it wasn’t. I would be the first to offer help or offer prayer, but I wouldn’t receive it. I think I’m believing a lie that says that giving help puts me in a place of power while receiving help puts me in a place of weakness. However, God has taught me that neither is the case!… Read more »
Terri
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I hear you! I still struggle with this. People seek me out to pray for them but I seldom ask them to pray for me. It is PRIDE. A friend told me one time, “Don’t rob me of a blessing. I want to do this for you.” I have never forgot this. I’m usually pretty good at wearing my mask and keeping my “hurts” covered. This is an area where I need a lot of prayer. Thanks for bringing this to the forefront.

gina
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I am asking for prayer for restoration of my marriage. I pray that my husband will be brought back to the Lord. I pray that my husband will return to us. I pray for restoration of his love for me. I pray for the transformation that God has begun in me. I pray that I will lean on and depend only on God and trust him. Only him.

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Gina, thank you for inviting us to walk alongside of you in prayer. We are praying for the healing and restoration of your marriage.

Spacenole
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Prayer is very important in our relationship with God. It is our conversation with Him and I have found that interceding prayer helps people to know they are loved. God does answer prayers but in His time not ours. A challenge I had but am learning to overcome is when someone needs prayer, is to pray with them right there and not just say “I will keep you in my prayers” and pray later. It helps them to know you truly care and hopefully they will feel God’s presence.

Terri
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Yes! I have started doing this very thing.

Charcarr
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Thank you. It’s hard asking for prayer for myself. But worst of all was I would not pray for myself. I had no problem praying for others but I felt like I was being selfish if I prayed for myself. I still struggle with it but I am getting better.

Scottc
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Aksing for prayer is sometimes a difficult thing to do. Because you have to expose yourself and risk ridicule whether it is preceved or actual. But having people join you in your suffering admits that the grace God gives us is an endless bounty. But the one thing i have never fully understood is why we dont ask for help from people who are have already been made whole. I have to assume that my friends and relatives that are in heaven still love and care about me and still want what is best for me. And since they are… Read more »
Unathi
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This is why we pray to God and in the name of Jesus. God’s word says that Jesus lives forever to intercede for us to the Father. Jesus is our Great High Priest.

tstephens427
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Being married to a proud man, this is bound to be harder for men, or at least it is for the men in my life. I hear him pray for me, the kids, friends and extended family, but rarely do I hear Him say “Father lead ME!” “Father forgive me!” Or “Oh Lord I need You!” Not to say He doesn’t ask God to “help him”, but he usually says “I can handle it.” As for me, unfortunately, I find myself asking others for prayer when I feel like God isn’t answering fast enough or when I feel like He… Read more »
Nanakaty58
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My Dr wants me on light duty at work for the next month limited walking/standing no more than 2 hrs without 30 min. rest as I had RT knee replacement in June still having quite a bit of pain please pray my clinical manager will ok this my supervisor has no problem with it it oh I work in Respiratory Therapy at a Trauma Hosp Sorry this is so long just wanted to explain. Thanks Justin for giving me the courage to ask

Roberta
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Prayers for you!

Terri
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Nanakaty, I pray that the Lord, Jehovah Rapha, will answer your prayers. That your supervisor will be more than willing to comply with this request and will make sure you get the breaks you need to completely recover. That your co-workers will support and assist you during your time of recovery and that you will work hard in you PT to recuperate as quickly as possible. I pray that your pain will subside and that the inflammation will cease. In all these things, I pray that God will receive all the glory in your recovery, in your workplace, and in… Read more »
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Nanakaty58, praying for you and for wholeness and solutions to the pain you are experiencing! Thanks for asking us to join in prayer for you.

ckcampbell
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My husband and I are finally getting back on our feet after 12 months of unemployment and the first few months of his job not having enough money. We struggled for months to makes ends meet, to feed our two year old, to even put gas in our car. The hardest part of the entire year though, was asking for help, both in prayer and when we just couldn’t do it on our own. Admitting you need help is so culturally wrong here that it almost physically hurts. But every time we asked for help and prayer, God came through… Read more »
Terri
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Amen! He is Jehovah Jirah! He will provide! Praying for you.

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Praying for you and your family to see continued provision of God and to be emboldened by the past year to continue to allow others to help as you courageously ask.

Roberta
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I belong to a number of online prayer groups. And I was floored one time, when facing an illness, that I realized I had been putting prayers for others through to the prayer chain, but never thought to ask for pray for MYSELF. When we have needs, they are just as important to be lifted up as are the needs of others. Christianity is designed to be community and community cares for their own, in whatever need arises. Even knowing that others are praying for you can lessen any burden. We, as human creatures, often want to grasp on to… Read more »
Big Country
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We all have times of needing prayer. I have a group of friends that we text each other when we need prayer even if it is for their college studies, or some other thing that may seem silly. But the thing is God wants is to pray with and for each other as this binds as as Christians together. As we are bound together as one big community for Christ, his power can shine even more. Prayer is so powerful and becomes even more powerful when several people are praying for the same things with and for each other.

Mbamtx
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I’ve joined prayer walls recently, especially when I’m feeling alone perhaps in the middle of the night. They help a lot and you are joining a community here as well. Perhaps that can help you. I will keep you in my prayers. Amen.

marka6499
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I went through the a terrible inter-healing session that left me raw and with unanswered feeling and thoughts. The enemy was attacking! A few days later one of the facilitators called and asked how I was doing? Which I was still struggling with being attacked. I asked for prayer. They prayed a short prayer and hung up. To this day I haven’t received a phone call from them. These are people in my church and whom I consider friends, I tell them I am fine when I see them in church. God is helping through this but as far as… Read more »
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Karen, we are saddened to hear that through a very personal experience you didn’t feel cared for. We are praying that you will find a community whom you can trust with anything going on in your life.

Froggie1118
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This really hit home for me. Thanks for sharing and the reminder that we are never alone.

Member

Amen! There’s power in prayer!

Mbamtx
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It took me a while to realize it, but I have realized the power of prayer and that it is not a sign of weakness, but of strength. Because sometimes it requires you praying, even when either you don’t see yourself deserving it or not wanting to admit that we all need help. I have struggled with the fact in the past that because I have fallen, I don’t deserve the grace of prayer or asking for help from others. I now know that is the exact reason to pray. I have been suffering for the last almost 2 years… Read more »
Terri
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My heart aches for you. Our children were grown, the youngest 19, when we divorced. It hurts everyone no matter how old you are. I pray that you will feel His loving arms around you and that you will be able to sleep in peace (Ps. 4:8). I know you want it now, but I pray that you will allow God to work in His time to mend the relationship with your daughter and will heal the hurt in you and your family. I pray for your husband – that God will open his eyes so that the desire of… Read more »
Mbamtx
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Thank you for your encouraging words and prayers; it means so much to me and knowing someone else understands. God Bless You! I pray that your family has healed from the pain divorce can cause as well and that you have peace in Him. Amen!

Terri
Member

He is. It just takes time….His time and me learning total dependence on Him. He is our Rock and Stone Tower. Praying for you.

Mbamtx
Member

God Bless You.

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We are praying for you and the long and painful situation you have found yourself in. Praying that healing will happen in your relationship with your daughter and that an agreement can happen soon between you and your ex-husband. Thank you for sharing part of your story with us.

Mbamtx
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Thank you for your prayers and support; it means so much.

Kari
Member
I am horrible about asking for prayer for myself. I tend to focus on others needs and pray for others on a regular basis. It isn’t until I am so heavy hearted, exhausted and completely defeated that the perverbial light bulb will go on and I begin to realize my need for people to pray on my behalf. I am blessed to have a 17 year old daughter who knows me well enough that she will often intercede on my behalf before I even have to ask. She told me one day “momma, you are the strongest woman I have… Read more »
Ashley
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I completely understand. It hard to ask for help with your struggles when it is easier to help everyone else. You remind me of my mom she is the same way and I do the same for her.

shawn
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I can completely relate to this…I struggle every day with asking anyone for help. I have spent the majority of my life being able to handle whatever has Benn thrown at me, and to ask others for help, prayer, or anything, makes me feel as tho I am not capable, or I’m facing at being an adult or what ever the case may be. Three years ago when I walked into the church I am still attending, I truly found God, thru the people I met and thru leading that prayer, and others working to help us, is truly what… Read more »
Annette
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I agree that prayer is very important because it is communication with our father God. When I am going through a hard and sad struggle, sometimes I do not know what to prayer and I find myself simply praying “Please help me, Lord” or even simpler “Help.” I have only a few people that I can ask for prayer and there are times that I feel I do not want to tell them about my personal thing so, I do not ask them for prayer. Then I feel very along in my “personal thing” and I see that this is… Read more »
LJLaws
Member

My biggest weakness is this, I have a ton going on in life right now. I finally just broke and asked my friends for help, they went above and beyond what I ever thought they would do.

Carol
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I have learned that asking for prayer gives me comfort. Knowing others are lifting my need to God is humbling. Today I’m asking for pain to become less in my foot. I had bones fused in surgery yesterday and it’s been very painful. But I can feel the prayers of my Christian family and it helps. Thank you for this group and to everyone for prayer support. God bless you.

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Carol, praying for the recovery of your foot from surgery and that the pain levels will be managed.

Lori Bruno
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I understand where you’re coming from. I also felt that way at one time. More out of fear,that people would realize I don’t have it together or worse I’m just a loser. But the more you show your weakness the more people are willing to show theirs. No one wants to open up to someone who acts like they have it altogether. In the last few days we here in South Florida were expecting a devastating hurricane, but because we were willing to pray with others even random strangers God spared us. Like he told Peter when he stepped out… Read more »
Lori Bruno
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I understand where you are coming from. I too felt the same way. That people would realize I don’t have it altogether and at worst I was a loser. But the more you open to others the more they open up to you. No one can relate to someone who acts like they have it altogether. In the last few days those of us here in South Florida were bracing for Hurricane Matthew and as terrifying as the media,and weather channels were making it out (and believe me…been through enough of these to know they are) our God is bigger.… Read more »
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Praises that your area wasn’t affected by the Hurricane as initially forecasted!

Cody D
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I struggle with asking for help and prayers, too. There are lots of things I NEED help with because I have Muscular Dystrophy, which means I cannot walk and have limited use of my arms. I guess that’s why I try to do things on my own as much as possible, and why I have such a hard time asking for help. I do not WANT to need other people’s help, but Justin’s words helped me realize that I do NEED other people’s help. Today’s reading has challenged me to let my guard down more often, to not be so… Read more »
SweetSuds
Member

God Bless u Cody.

Terri
Member

Amen! Praying for you!

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Cody, thank you for sharing your story with us and your faith! We are encouraged by your willingness to be open and honest.

Watson
Member

This is so me. I’m great at getting prayer warriors and myself motivated to pray for others when they ask. However, I feel like I’m whining if I ask others to pray for me.or like I’m not trusting God to just handle it.

SweetSuds
Member
At the sake of sounding self absorbed, I wanted to share that in my life when I have been totally vulnerable and “vented” to family members regarding the hard things I was facing, I get it thrown back in my face down the road, usually when we are arguing about something…bc now they’re mad at me and they can use everything that has ever irritated them about me and bring it up…even after apologies were said and we “supposedly” moved past it. Never once has my “Christian” family said they would pray for me….but those same family members have called… Read more »
Terri
Member
I know where you are coming from and it does make it hard to ask for prayer when the ones you love and trust want to throw it back in your face and use it against you. You do have a God you can trust. You can talk to Him about anything, but when you do always be ready to listen, too. Make sure your prayer time is a two way time of communication. He will speak volumes to you if you will listen. Pray with your Bible by your side. He will lead you to scripture that you need.… Read more »
Unathi
Member

It’s true that when we’ve made ourselves vulnerable to others that they can use it to hurt us. I’ve seen it happen. If you don’t have reliable Christian Brothers and sisters that you can trust to be a support, then I encourage you to find people who you can just say to them, “Please pray for me. It’s a personal request. I need God’s help/wisdom/guidance.”

You don’t have to go into deep detail. Just ask for help. 🙂

I’ll pray that God leads people to you that can be healthy prayer partners with you. He is faithful.

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SweetSuds, we are praying for you to find community that will surround you with love, affirmation, and be a tangible reminder of the presence of God.

Keri Lynn Siegel
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Justin, as a woman of prayer, I had to learn this lesson myself. I would beat myself up over the time I wasn’t spending praying for others if I had others praying for me; but God didn’t call me as an intercessor to stand in the gap for individuals or as a spiritual watchman who stands in the gap for businesses, ministries, and governments; so that I would neglect my own needs. If I don’t get my own needs met by Him, I cannot be effective. I had to learn to get prayer when I need it. Only then, can… Read more »
Tania
Member

Thanks for sharing. Letting me know it’s pride why I don’t know how to ask for help or let others know I need help. I struggle with receiving help I just feel like why me. if something good is going to happen and I immediately start to think the worse is going to follow. I don’t know how to shake this feeling. I often cannot find the energy to read or pray, in fact I don’t know how to pray. My cousin introduced me to this group. I will get it a shot towards my progress.

Unathi
Member

That’s right. You start out with small steps. The Bible says not to despise small beginnings. Good will meet you exactly where you are, you just need to just keep moving TOWARD Him.

WAY-FM
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Tania, welcome to the group! We are praying with and for you. You are not alone, your Creator is with you.

Becky
Member

Out of the blue… Or not so out of the blue…a client of the place I do work for..asked if she could pray for me. She had no idea of what I was going thru. What’s more astonishing is the just 5 minutes before that she told me her husband just died on Monday from cancer. She went thru her own struggle yet wanted to know if she could pray for me. God puts people when and where you need each other.

kkoerner
Member

Very insightful. Helps me understand a side of my husband I couldn’t grasp. Thank you for being vulnerable enough to share the truth.

Magsie1976
Member

This was a good reminder…. What goes through my head a lot is ” I don’t want to bother anyone with my issues”. I’m only isolating myself away from blessings unknown

Bernice E. Smith
Member

Amen Justin! Praying with you.

Catherine Waters
Member

Even knowing the power of prayer through my own life experiences, it is still difficult to ask for others to pray for me. I am fortunate to have a Christian family who prays for me and will ask others to pray for me when life is a struggle. This is a way that God has blessed my life. I have seen miracles through prayer. My son is a daily reminder to me of how God answers prayer.

Thank you for this post! I never want to forget God’s awesomeness when we do ask others to pray for us.

Edemerath
Member

I am a member of a beautiful body of believers and I have a prayer warrior mother. I am so blessed. I am also walking through a deep deep valley at work right now. My heart goes out to all the hurting that are expressing their pain on this page. I know God KNOWS and LOVES us. I am praying for all this pain represented and for all the potential it can bring about. Thank you for WGSM! I’m going to say it “Please pray for me.”

Terri
Member
Thank you for your prayers, I certainly need them. I am also praying for you. Be strong in the Lord and the power of His might for our struggle is not against flesh and blood but against the powers of darkness. Put on the full armor of God so you can stand against the devil’s schemes. (Eph6:10-18). I pray that you will feel God’s Presence and that you will see the enemy for who he is. Where there is chaos, he is right there in the middle of it. God will work good out of your work situation. Just keep… Read more »
Lysa
Member

I too don’t want people to know my struggles, but not because I’m weak. Because those around me don’t understand that prayer would help:( Need to surround myself with more understanding people:)

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Lysa, yes! We are praying you will find a community who understands you and your heart!

MattJBoz
Member

Thank you for sharing.

This whole story is me for the last few years. I didn’t want help, because I didn’t want people to know I was struggling. I felt the need to do everything myself. My problems are mine alone; no one needs to bare them but me. I’m slowly working to fix that. They say pride comes before the fall. The pride was there, I fell, and now I climbing back up.

Katlyn
Member

Wow. I’m playing catch up by a few days and the fact that this applies to what currently I’m going through is awesome.

Jenny Mulliins
Guest

Thanks for this reminder.

Hestia
Member

its always hard to ask anyone more so God, thank you for sharing ROMANS 15:30.

JennyChestnut
Member

I know that Lord is always with me. I will not be shaken, for he is right beside me. Psalm 16:8

Cali
Member

God work on me daily!

Sherry
Member

Great testimony! I have always tried to fix things on my own. I tried not to ask God for help unless something went terribly wrong. I struggle with being vulnerable in my personal relationships because I don’t want to get hurt. My upbringing wasn’t peachy and have many ghosts that continue to linger. Its a slow process for me but I know God is still there. Thank you for sharing your story.

Tammy
Member

this is hard to do

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Tammy, we agree! It is hard to do, we are praying for you to have the faith and courage to ask others to enter in to some of the more personal parts of your life and that those people will be a safe place for you.

cameran_smith
Member

I hate asking for help-it’s totally and completely a pride issue.

Susan
Member

I can relate- pride can hinder me in admitting my needs. I have found being real in asking for prayer frees me and glorifies our God who helps us.

Siobhan
Member
I can relate to Justin. I do not like being perceived as weak or as a failure. The only difference is that I don’t have a family and I certainly do not feel comfortable asking my work peers to pray for me. So maybe, someone who reads this will pray for me. I am suffering. I hate my job and am so deep in debt, that I might have to start foreclosure proceedings. The only thing I have going for me right now is a certification test. I don’t think I am ready. But if I pass this test, it… Read more »
Tami
Member
I struggle in asking for prayer because I do not feel worthy to be the beneficiary of people’s prayers. It is a huge battle. I willingly jump at the opportunity to pray for others without hesitation but hesitate when asking for myself. Who am I that you should pray for me? The Lord has been so gracious with me as I work through this. He has blessed me with a small group of mighty prayer warrior friends that continue to love & pray me through it all. We are not meant to go it alone and He DOES love me… Read more »
Megan Starr
Member
This is the hardest for me. Mine isn’t I don’t want people to know, it’s I don’t think my problems matter to them. Also, I’m around a lot of people who claim to believe in God but don’t follow Jesus. I am learn there is a difference to point. In my journey I am following Jesus and what he was like on this earth because that is why he was placed here. I do this because I believe in God. Pray is hard for me as I need to get past I don’t think anyone cares about what is happening… Read more »
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