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Hebrews 10:24-25, 39

24 Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. 25 And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near.

39 But we are not like those who turn away from God to their own destruction. We are the faithful ones, whose souls will be saved.

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WBSGbio_BekahThis one is so important and so easily overlooked. Bekah from The Wally Show opens up about the lie she had to stop believing during this difficult year in her life.

“I’m exhausted. Everything is slipping through the cracks. I just can’t keep up!”

How many times have you said something similar? I’ve said it a lot this year.

As my little family rides the roller coaster of my husband’s health problems, I often feel stretched thin. It’s hard to focus at work. We’re almost always in the middle of a game of phone tag with doctors or insurance. Every weekend is a battle of whether or not to take him back to the emergency room. My body hurts from all the nights spent in the hospital.

The people pleaser in me constantly feels inadequate when faced with a hundred different opinions of well-intentioned friends and family members.

And the craziest part of all of it? I don’t have to feel this way! Almost every day, people who care about us ask how they can help. Every time, I answer, “Oh we’re good. I’m ok…”

….which is a terrible lie. Over the past few months, when people saw through my fake answer and cooked us a meal or sent us a gift card, I’d weep in private. It always happened when I was on the edge of another breaking point that they couldn’t have known about because I insisted I was ok—my husband Joey was the sick one.

It took me too long to learn that God created us to live in community. We aren’t meant to live on an island of emotional and physical exhaustion.

When I finally started letting others help, it lifted a burden off of my shoulders, and helped them by letting them do what they felt called to do in the first place.

It was a rough lesson but a good one, especially as others around me face their own battles. From my family’s struggles, I learned that a meal, or a $10 gift card, or a simple act of service can go a very long way when you feel you have nothing left to give.

I’m trying to get better at extending that help when I recognize a need, because I know we’re meant to lean on each other when life happens.

Notes from the Beyond Suffering Bible

Balm for the Hurting Soul – When life gets tough, we need a support network. We need to help others and be willing to receive help from others. A true fellowship of believers, where there is an equal exchange of love and encouragement, can be a balm to the hurting soul. Don’t let Satan isolate you or someone else you know! Who could you reach out to today?

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  1. Profile photo of Unathi

    Thank you, Bekah for sharing your heart on this. It’s easy to go one of two ways in the really pressing times; it’s easy to go all-out complaining, or go all-out denial (“I’m blessed to be a blessing. Everything’s cool!”). But the harder thing, the right thing to do is to admit our struggles, fears, inadequacies, and ask for help or prayer.
    It’s very hard to do that for those of us who see ourselves as independent and/or self-sufficient. I can say that, because I’ve often been guilty of going the “I’m fine” route. It’s taken a long time, but I’ve learned that I’m not as island. I need others. Yes, I’m an introvert, but God didn’t create me to exist alone. Not only that, but we are meant to share each other’s burdens. I’m strong in an area someone else is weaker. And others have strength in areas I don’t. We need each other to grow and mature.
    Also, it’s a blessing and brings such joy and comfort to know that people care and are praying for you. On the other hand, when we pray for and help others, we can experience blessings as well. So, I do think it’s important to not let these opportunities pass by, either to ask for help or to give help.
    Then after being honest about the struggles (“Yeah, I’m going through a really tough time right now”), it’s important not to linger on that. Then we encourage ourselves and each other with God’s promises of healing and hope. We remind ourselves of His faithfulness in times past. It’s too easy to say things are fine and then continue on hurting inside. Let us not pass on the blessings available to us when asked a question about our trials. Even if you believe the person is just asking to be polite, it’s better to respond honestly than keep a fake conversation going. There’s a lesson in that as well, but I’m not going there. 🙂
    I pray peace today for all of us in this small group. God has us in His mighty and capable hands. He’s placed people around to help us and I pray that when they reach out, we don’t keep them pushed away but embrace them. We have a blessing for them, and they have a blessing for us. Let’s walk in community with our brothers and sisters. Don’t let anyone go it alone. Don’t let pride or the devil convince you that true warriors don’t lean on other people. Even Jesus needed Simon to help carry His cross at the end. We all need help. We all have something to give.

    • Profile photo of Asher

      Unathi, I completely relate, being an independent introvert myself. I’ve always found it hard to have community and am hesitant to share my struggles, but one act of kindness can make my day.
      In the story of the woman at the well, the first step Jesus took was recognizing the Samaritan woman’s need. So this was a great reminder to be looking out for others who are on “islands”, too, and show God’s love to them!

    • Mbamtx

      Thank you for your comments and your prayers for the group. Being a part of this community has really helped during a really hard time in my life. My faith and spirituality tends to be a very personal, intimate thing and just recently I have started to share with others in my life that I know have the same foundation. It’s powerful to pray with someone or know that others are praying for you. Thank you for your reminder that we are not alone in this. I am thankful for those “God Links” that draw us closer to Him and closer in community. Be on the look out for those signs and little things that are really BIG things in your life. Please pray for all of us here that we find strength, and peace through this community and please pray if you would, that my custody battle be resolved soon in a positive way and for healing for my family. I also pray for the financial means to keep fighting for my children and some financial relief. It took me a long time to be able to ask others for prayer but I’m learning the importance of being able to ask for help and support and could so relate to today’s story. I am praying for you all here that you find peace, find stronger fellowship, and that you grow in the Holy Spirit to ask for help when you need it and give it when you can. In Jesus Name I pray, Amen.

      • Teepee

        Thank you. AND AMEN!

      • Profile photo of Rebie WAY-FM

        It sounds like God is really working on you. That’s so cool to see. Glad you’re part of the group! And guess what? You’re one of our winners of the Beyond Suffering Bible! Check your e-mail so we can find out the best place to ship to!

  2. Angela

    Admitting we need help doesn’t mean we aren’t strong or capable, it means we are human. Thank you for sharing your story and this beautiful reminder that it is okay to let others prop us up when we are tilting under the stresses of life.

  3. Nicol

    This is so true. It’s hard to remember in the moment though that I can’t do it all alone. Sometimes in the busy world we’re in people are in so much of a rush that it’s easy to hide when you’re hurting. It doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t try to help anyways.

  4. Profile photo of Wendy

    Very well said. Praying for your family!

  5. Nicole

    I know that once we surrender and stop holding it all and allow those around us in and like you said help because they believe they are called to help us, so much peace comes into that situation. There is a deep sense of knowing you are not in this alone.
    Thank you for sharing and blessing to you and your husband during this time. I pray Gods complete healing over your husband from his head to his toes. May his body be made whole and function the way God intended it to when He created him from the foundation of the earth. In Jesus name, amen.

    • Penny

      Amen!! Healing in abundance in Jesus name!

  6. Profile photo of Kellycat71

    I do this so often. Thank you Bekah. God be with you. I’m a single mom of an adult son with bipolar and Aspergers. He’s capable of my things, he’s come so far but then there’s certain things and times where it takes a toll on me. I cry in private. I feel selfish thinking I should be praying for my son, not me. My family lives up north. But I keep praying.

    • Profile photo of WAY-FM

      Praying for you and your son Kelly!

  7. Ginger

    Thanks for sharing. It is so much easier to tell someone you are ok when you are really not. I have to say I have a great support group from friends and family, they have kept me going when I felt like I couldn’t. Prayers for you and your husband.

  8. Willyfrog

    Very wise words. Excepting help is hard but when God sends angels to help you it is a blessing for all involved.

  9. Debra

    It is extremely hard to accept things from others, but you bring up a great point… is what they were lead to do and we should receive it graciously without guilt. Thank you Father for our support network of believers in our world.

  10. Sheron

    I know how hard it is to let go and let others help, we feel that we have to take care of everything! That has always been my problem, I have to step back at times and realize that God has things under control and nothing will fall apart if I let some one else handle something, that is why God sent them in the first place he saw that I needed the help.

  11. Profile photo of Loran

    Thank you for the message today. This year has been extremely difficult, and I felt extremely isolated in being with my son in the hospital. I was let down by my church in the area of communal support, even though they helped a great deal financially. I’ve felt guilty complaining or feeling abandoned because of the help they did provide. But I honestly did feel isolated and lonely. I learned two things from this: 1) God taught me to depend on Him for comfort, and 2) I realized how much community support means. So now that we’re through the rough part, I’m trying to start a support group in my church for single/divorced women to be each other’s support, and I’m trying to be there for others, as much as I can. Not that I wasn’t before, I think I was more so than most people, but I am seeking ways to serve now, instead of just waiting to stumble across them.

    • Profile photo of WAY-FM

      Loran, what a testimony to the grace of God that you begin a ministry out of a need you experienced. We are praying for you!

  12. This is so GOOD! Pride, it is my worst enemy. I don’t need help. I can do it. If I ask for help I am weak. I rarely win this battle. I’m trying but it is really hard to ask for help. Thank you for this message.

  13. Profile photo of Dawndee

    Thank you for sharing. It is so true! One of the hatdest lessons I have been learning is that it is ok to ask for help. It not only releaves and allows me to be blessed. But when we don’t let others assist we are actually stealing their blessing.

  14. Profile photo of Jennie

    Bekah your family is in my prayers! You have a community of listeners hoping for the best for your family!

  15. I grew up in the 1950’s and 1960’s as unchurched unbeliever, so the reminder in todays scripture to “not forget the assembling with other believers;” that is, going to church is a priority for me. We need one another for encouragement, prayer and to be taught the scriptures. I thank our Lord Jesus for the church, His bride!

  16. Profile photo of Jameska

    This is a lesson that so many of us have to learn. What I’ve been learning is that if I don’t learn how to receive when I need help, then I am too depleted to pour out when the time comes for me to give help. The way it worked with me was: until I learned how to receive from people, I also couldn’t (or wouldn’t) receive from God. This meant I was always unintentionally blocking my own blessings.

  17. Profile photo of Debbie

    Thank you Bekah! I am so guilty of telling that lie as well. The I’m fine, I can do this myself, I don’t need any help lie. Many times I feel myself slipping and I just can’t bring myself to ask even for prayer because I don’t want anyone to know that I’m less that what I appear. Thank you for the reminder that yes, God is there, but so are many others waiting to serve.

  18. Mollie

    I think as women, we naturally tend to not ask for anything when a spouse or child or ourselves are in need. I know that, I personally, will literally run myself to the point of exhaustion. Early this year I was sick for 2 months, couldn’t eat solid foods,lost 25 pounds. Nothing could be found in the dozen tests I went through. I denied a high stress level. But, in reflection, I am sure that I just made myself sick. Running 4 kuds, losing both our jobs, starting our own business, and nit asking for help, or even reaching out to talk to anyone. I think a lot if time, the support we might need, or others mught need, is just a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on,someone who we can vent to wuthout fear of judgement or more advice.
    Thank you for sharing your story, and providing encouragement

  19. Pam Bodie

    Bekah, thank you so much for sharing this message. I am just like you and have such a hard time letting people help me. This message will always be with me and I hope I can learn to listen to what you have said in this message.

  20. Profile photo of

    You are so right Bekah. I saw this everyday in the clinic I practiced. I would ask “how are you?” And most of the time the answer was ” fine” even though we both knew they were not “fine”. By continuing to offer my encouragement and acceptance, the real concern or ‘suffering’ was voiced and the help they came for could then be given. I often thought how this parallels Our relationship with God. You & Joey remain in my prayers as you walk through this trial.

  21. Kimmy

    Bekah, I’ve enjoyed all of the small group devotions, but the 2 days you have done, have touched me the most. Thank you.

  22. Sondra Parks

    Thank you for sharing! I have the same problem asking for help or admitting I need it! And it is very true that when someone offers to help, it is just as important for them to be able to help because God may have put it on their heart to help us. My mother always said to let others be a blessing to us so they too can be blessed! Prayers for you and your family!

  23. Chartinae Murray

    This is a very affirming post. My coworker recently had a nephew who passed away he was only 6. He lived with her brother in Hawaii and it hurts her that she can not be there for them. God has been pushing me to go and spend time with her cook her dinner. Whenever I ask she just says I’m okay and part of me believed and the otherside could see a deeper pain.I want to help but I don’t know how. But from this post I learned that a little can go a long way so I will just try.

  24. Profile photo of Milli

    Thank you for sharing. This is one important message for all. We ourselves offer assistance to others so why can’t we accept their offer to help us?

  25. Marty

    I can so relate to this. I’ve always been so self-reliant it’s very hard for me to ask for help, much less accept it when it’s offered. But I try to remember what it’s like to be the giver…it is so freeing and joyous to help someone else so when we deny that help we are robbing someone else’s blessing too. Thanks, Bekah, and I will be praying for you and Joey!

  26. Steve

    I just heard it said that the local bar is more like the church is suppose to be than the church is. The bartender knows a person’s problems better than the preacher does because when we go to church we put on our best outfit and wear our Christian smile and say everything is okay.

    • Profile photo of Rebie WAY-FM

      That’s a good point and interesting perspective, Steve. Thank you for sharing that and being part of the group. I hope we can all try to be the kind of people who really connect with people, like you’re describing.

      Also, you were chosen to be one of our Beyond Suffering Bible winners! Check your e-mail so we can figure out the best place to ship your prize to!

  27. Bonniw Cox

    Oh Bekah how true this is. I find it hard my self to drop “my pride” and let anyone know “I’m not okay and i might need some help!”. This is my deep dark secret, I suffer from depression and hide it very well, but lately I have found myself not wanting to leave the house (or even the couch). I have a very active 10 year old son, which of course as you can imagine, makes it very difficult. Very often I get overwhelmed with life and do not allow others to help out. Satan always seems to find his way in. I will take from your advice and try to let my guard down and allow others to help take the stress off of me. Thanks for sharing! and I will keep your family in my prayers.

    • Profile photo of WAY-FM

      Bonni, praying for you. Praying that the darkness of depression lifts enough for you to ask for the help you need to get through this time. Some of the WAY-FM staff experience depression as well so there is understanding for your situation. We are praying for you to find relief. If you missed Joy’s devotion on depression that’s a good place to start – if nothing else to realize that you aren’t alone even though it might feel like it. Her devotional was on October 5 – here’s the link:

  28. Profile photo of Ashton

    This is such a hard one for me! Like you Bekah, I am a people pleaser and I don’t want to be an inconvenience to others. It’s such a challenge to ask for help in life’s trials and tribulations. Sometimes I tell myself I’d rather be isolated and alone when I’m struggling so no one will know or see. “Don’t let Satan isolate you” really struck a cord for me! I hadn’t thought about it being a blessing to others to be supportive to me and I continue to try to open up to my support network. This was a great reminder that if I feel blessed to help others I should allow others to feel blessed to help me in hard times. Thank you Bekah!

  29. Linda Odom

    Thank you for sharing. This is a hard thing to do… accept help when you need it. It is so much easier to help than let someone help..

  30. Stephen Coon

    My family has been dealing with my wife’s health issues for several years now. When we dealt with a truly difficult time a few years ago, my pastor asked if the church members could help. I did not want to accept this because I am not one to ask for help, until he said that I should allow the people who have been called to help others use their gift. Thisgot through to me and I let them help. What a true blessing this was to my family and I. Thank God that He has called people to help others.

  31. Katie T

    This really hit home with me this morning. Thank you Bekah for your transparency and honesty. Your WayFM family loves you and bigger and greater than you can imagine—next time you metion your hubby on the air and you have a beat break; I’d imagine that literally thousands of prayers are sent your way. The Way family extends farther that the goofy company you keep at work every day. 💚

  32. Terri Jones

    I really loved today’s message. I can relate with some of the struggles you mention. I was married for 16 years when my husband moved in with another women and left me with 3 kids. It was so overwhelming! It’s been several years since then, and while I’ve learned to adjust – there are times when things still feel overwhelming. Thanks for sharing your struggles.

  33. Beth

    This is so true! Thank you for this! When we were struggling, people would reach out and try to help and we would say- we are good- when in fact we were drowning. On those moments when a handshake greeting would included a $100 bill I knew God was saying- You need help… you need ME… I am using THESE to help you!God sends people our way… and when we are on our feet- he will send us to them!
    Prayers for your husband’s healing and for you the strength to carry on!

  34. Profile photo of Ben Cairns

    Thank you for sharing this Bekah!

    It is my belief it takes more strength to ask for help than it is to simply endure it and act like everything is fine. I have had to teach myself so many times whether at work or at home.

    My prayers are with you and your family Bekah. May God bring healing to your husband and comfort for your family during this time.

  35. Kathy

    So very true. It’s hard to let others help, but we should not rob them of their joy. Thank you for sharing your heart and life with us, Bekah.

  36. Janet Mertz

    Thanks for sharing what a lot of us go through-in silence-going through a lot here as my son struggles with school and who he is at 16-appreciate all the honesty and the safe place WayFM is-

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      Janet, we will be in prayer for your son and for you as the Mama!

  37. Holden

    I have had to learn and still learning this lesson. With my mental health issues I like to make it seem like I never have a rough day or that I never struggle because I don’t want people to know that I have mental health issues because I don’t want them think I’m crazy or to project the stereo type of somebody with mental health issues on me. But the best thing about the church is when you find people that you can truly open up to and there is no judgement. Sometimes they even struggle with the same things and you can lean on each other.

    • Profile photo of WAY-FM

      Holden, praying for you and praying that you find a community who gets you and you can trust!

  38. Shawn

    I am the worst when it comes to accepting help, or even acknowledging that I need help! I love helping others but I feel like I’m inconveniencing someone by asking for help.

    • Profile photo of WAY-FM

      Shawn, we are praying that you begin to see the gift it is to let someone come alongside of you for a change! It’s hard but so very worth it!

    • Profile photo of Rebie WAY-FM

      Hey, Shawn! I hope you’re doing well and I’m glad you’re part of this group! Guess what? You’ve been chosen as one of our winners of a Beyond Suffering Bible! Check your e-mail so we can figure out the best place to send it to you.

  39. Profile photo of Susan413

    That is (1) lesson learned!
    I spent decades (I’ll let that sink in) not wanting to bother God or others. Always thinking, “I got this.” Well, needless to say, (4) years ago I had a Job season and faced multiple crises that occured simultaneously. And suddenly , my I got this turned into “Jesus, I can’t do this alone.” And now, when a crisis arises, I call everyone I know to please pray for me and/or my loved ones, and I go to our Lord with honesty and humbleness.

  40. Julie Campbell

    That lie is also one I struggled with (and sometimes still do). When my husband was deployed for a year, there were people offering to help, but I consistently turned them down thinking I could handle it on my own – with 2 young kids. Yes, I ‘handled’ it, but not well – I wish I had recognized that admitting that you need help is not a weakness, but rather a time to tell the world that yes, I’m human, I can’t do this alone, and yes, please help.

    • Profile photo of Rebie WAY-FM

      Thanks so much for commenting and sharing, Julie! Glad you’re part of the group. 🙂

      Also, you were picked to win a Beyond Suffering Bible! Check your e-mail so we can figure out the best place to ship it to! 🙂

  41. Profile photo of Leahmarie711

    I think the hardest part about this truth is that I constantly think I’m doing something wrong if I ask for help. I think that I’m supposed to go to God and only him with my struggles. It’s easy to forget that we are meant to be in community. It is definitely something that is hard to find. It is also hard for me to extend trust to others without feeling like a burden. Thank you Bekah for sharing this today. You and your family are in my prayers.

  42. Abby

    Thank you for sharing your message. God is good ! I cannot fully grasp what you are going through, but my heart is moved by your words. You are in my prayers! Thank you for encouraging us this day

  43. Profile photo of Cali Flower

    God is amazing. Bekah and I are going through a very similar battle… my husband was diagnosed with brain cancer at the beginning of the year… this year has been such a blur and I am always saying “I’m fine, we’re good”… you’re spot on… I need to let this go. I’m so stressed out not knowing what tomorrow is going to bring and how to respond to it. I pray so much for God’s miracles and his grace. This is such a hard road to walk, but I don’t want to quit. God is good.

    • Profile photo of WAY-FM

      Cali, praying for your husband and for you.

  44. Profile photo of Dawn

    Wow! What a great reminder that the little things can help. I know when our son passed away, it was such a blessing to have our church family surround us. It was invaluable to us. Thank you for the charge to look around and serve others. And also the reminder that we don’t have to be okay. We can ask for help. I always tell people who try to refuse my help, “Please don’t steal my blessing.” and it really helps them to realize that it would bless me to help them. Great word, Bekah!

  45. Profile photo of Carmen Melissa

    Thank YOU!!! I struggle with isolation. I thought that maybe not going to see friends on the weekends …I would have less chance of running away from dealing with any of my stuff and Ideally I could get closer to God (No distractions)…to hear His quiet voice …Focus on my Spirit. Why talk about my tiny struggles in the big picture of REAL struggles or give any weight to a struggle by talking about it. Isolation can be so deafening. My Mind is LOUD. UGH …I forgot about this simple truth shared in today’s message ” Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near.”

    • Profile photo of WAY-FM

      Carmen, there’s a saying your comment makes me think of – Isolation breeds deception. Sometimes when we isolate the lies get louder until they become false truth. We need other people to help correct our course. Praying for you!

  46. Profile photo of Daniel

    May God’s Blessing be with you and your family. My wife and I are praying for you and your family.

  47. Profile photo of Turtlefrog52

    I can relate to both sides that you presented. I tend to not let people know when I hurt or need help, and like you I tend to also be a HUGE people pleaser. But, on the flip side, I’ve also been one of the people to offer someone help, and they respond with the cliche “I’m good. We’re good” answer. So it actually inspires me to still do something for those people. Thank you!

  48. Profile photo of Loran

    I’ve really enjoyed reading the comments, and while I’ve thought about them, a thought came to mind: we also have to stop telling the lie “let me know if you need anything.” Why is this a lie? Because it makes the person who says it feel good about themselves without having to do anything. You know 99.9% of the people you say it to will say something like, “okay” but never will ask for help, or “we’re fine” and deny that they need help because they don’t want to be a burden. Here’s a better way to offer help, “I’m running errands tomorrow, give me your grocery list and I’ll pick things up for you.” Or, “Is there anything you can’t or don’t eat? I’m organizing a meal delivery for you and id like to know what you’d prefer people bring.” And then organize someone to deliver meals on different days of the week. Or say, “will you be home this afternoon? I’d like to come over and do some housework for you to give you a break, PLEASE do t clean before I get there, I don’t care how dirty or messy things are.” Or, “Some of the guys would like a honey-do list so we can do the things you or your husband used to do before …” In other words, you’re intelligent you KNOW what needs to be done in a person’s life on a day to day basis. Figure out what you’re capable of and JUST DO IT. Don’t give a lame offer to ease your conscience. DO tell the person what you’re going to do instead of offering. They’ll refuse help even though they need it because they don’t want to be an inconvenience. DO be specific: I will do laundry, vacuum your house, wash your car, take your dry cleaning out, mow your grass, wash the dishes. EVERY little act of kindness is appreciated. Also, spend TIME with the people. Don’t overstay, but don’t assume they won’t want company while they’re going through something. Just my perspective from having been on the needy side of things.

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      This is really good Loran. I have been guilty of saying that lie, though I know I will follow through if they ask for anything. I was very touched when I found that there was a ‘meal train’ organized for me after my surgery earlier this year. It was such a blessing even though I felt like our family could handle it. Another friend asked the more direct question, “I’m going to the store, can I pick up anything for you while I’m there?” There were a couple of things that I did want, so I told her about them. She brought the items that I asked for and so much more. Our refrigerator was stuffed! And when I thanked her and told her that she didn’t need to do it, she pointed out that God had blessed her and so she wanted to bless us. We need to get ourselves out of the way when God wants to use others to bless us. I’m still working on that. Perhaps that’s why my struggle continues… =)

  49. Profile photo of Brenda Paryzek

    I have isolated myself for 8 years, I have chronic illness and constantly tell everyone I am fine. I think it’s time I opened up. Thank you for sharing this 💕

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      Brenda, praying for you. Praying for this illness you have and praying that you find a community of people who you can trust and open up to.

  50. Profile photo of Lindsay

    I can completely relate to being the person reluctant to allow others to help. Earlier this yearelationship, I broke my left elbow and a few days later found myself with a bracelet also on my right wrist. For a few weeks I tried struggled trying to manage my hectic work and church obligations on my own. My I found myself physically and emotionally breaking down. Multiple people had offered help, but I was resistant to accepting. Then I read a devotional that talked about how not allowing others to help you, could be preventing them from blessing you with that service. God meant for us to love and share with one another, and both giving and accepting help is essential for this to work as God intended.

  51. Natalie Wertz

    Thank you for sharing Bekah.

  52. phyllis raspberry

    Thank you for this group and sharing your walk. Love this station and all the dj’s

  53. Profile photo of M.Mouse

    This is a hard thing to do when you want everything to be ok. I learned a long time ago when someone is trying to bless you, just say thank you and accept it. You not only deny the blessing from God for you when you don’t accept it,but you knock the other person out of a blessing from God also. Sometimes my pride hinders me from allowing other to bless me.

    • Profile photo of Rebie WAY-FM

      Thank you for commenting and sharing your heart here. I hope you’re doing well today! And guess what? You were picked as one of our Beyond Suffering Bible winners! Check your e-mail so we can figure out the best place to ship to! 🙂

  54. Kay

    Thanks so much for this encouraging word! I’m facing a situation and I am embarrassed to share or let anyone know I need help. I feel like God wanted me to make a decision and so.i did. It stretched my faith to do so and trusted he would provide and now I’m scared I didn’t hear him correctly because of the hardship I’m going through now. I want to trust him, but I am confused as to his will and I hope that it doesn’t look different for me than I want it to be. It would be devastating to lose our car and our home. I do understand they are only material things and if that’s his will, then I have to accept it, but I truly don’t want that.

  55. Latoya

    Well this hits home, I must say its nice to know I am not the only person that react in this way when I am struggling on a day to day bases, with being all I can be for my household, the wife, mom, and the bread winner. Its hard to except help especially when you think you have it all together and your trying not to be a burden to others. Bekah thank you for this post, I will try to be more willing to except help and know that God’s helping hand comes through many different ways.

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    This is great, as I too have been telling people that I’m OK. When I posted on FB about starting radiation treatments, I had a friend offer to cook casseroles for our family. I was touched that she would want to do anything as we were high school friends and haven’t seen each other in years. I told her that we would be fine, because at the time I was, and I had no idea how drained I would be now that I’m 4 weeks into treatment. I feel bad because my kids, who luckily are old enough to fend for themselves in the kitchen, haven’t had me cook much of anything recently; I’m just too tired when I get home from work. This makes me realize that I can accept help from those that have offered it instead of just gritting my teeth and working my way through one more day.

  57. Profile photo of slady

    OMGoodness! Today’s lesson hit VERY close to home! I have a very hard time asking for help. I REALLY needed this one…THANK YOU!

  58. Jimmie Byers

    Thank you. We are taught to stand on our own and take care of ourselves. It is difficult as you say to rely on other people. I told people all the time that I was ok during my divorce but my real friends saw through it and held me up. It is a humbling lesson to let others help you. I feel guilty that I even need the help. Thanks for sharing your story.

  59. Paula

    Bekah, thank you for sharing your story. About 5 years ago, my then 14 year old daughter was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease and spent 2 weeks in the hospital. It was very difficult for me to accept help from others as well. However, the money that people gave, the meals that were given to us and even an IPod for her meant so much to us. I am often reluctant to give to others in their time of crisis because I just don’t know how to help. Our church gives tons of food when there is a death so even then, I feel like whatever I have to contribute may be in excess and not needed. I help where I can though, like paying extra for a friend who was cleaning houses to make money after she lost her job. We are on a tight budget due to the never ending medical expenses for my daughter, as I’m sure you can relate. I will pray for you and Joey. Sometimes, that’s all we can do. So, if I am ever at a loss as how to help someone, I know that I can always pray. My prayer warriors have been awesome. When the doctors did not think that medication would help, my daughter has been removed from the liver transplant list (no longer needed) and is now a freshman in college and doing very well. God bless! I love the Wally Show and WAYFM! I listen all the time!

  60. Linda

    I know this situation well. I am a helper person. If there is a cause, a need, someone sick or hurting, etc. I will do whatever I can to provide something. However, it is very hard for me to ask for or even accept help even though I really would like to do so. I just feel like I’ll manage. But after the death of a child and my husband I have come to realize that I can’t manage. Now I know it’s not about me and being strong and courageous and putting on a mask. I need to accept the willingness of the body of Christ to love and serve in His Name. They are my spiritual family and they have much to offer. Thanks Bekah for your story.

  61. Profile photo of Trevor Poling

    Good stuff. We all tend to act like islands in good times, bad times and everything in between. But, we need each other. Peyton Manning is lauded as a 2 time Super Bowl champion, which he is, but he’d be the first one to tell you that it took teams of men to win those championships.

    We are champions; interconnected champions. Reach out to someone today. Love them, lean on them. We need each other.

  62. Profile photo of mrromero5

    Thank you for sharing this, it made me think of myself as well. I was living a lie. I got saved in march of 2006 and I was on fire for the Lord. He used me all kinds and when I started working in corrections at a County Jail, I stopped street ministering and going to church. I then started cussing a lot. Before this I always wanted to be as the scripture says Let your light shine before men that they see your good deeds and glorify your father who is in heaven. I was ashamed and was very prideful and didn’t want anyone to know, especially my Christian brothers that would hold me accountable. I was forgetting that my brothers were there to lift me up and help me through my struggles. I didn’t even want to pray or help anyone anymore. I recently started to pray and read my bible again last month. It is amazing how God gives you things when you are listening. It is hard and God is still working on me daily. The first week I started to pray and seek God he used me to show love and good deeds to others. I never drive the long way when I come from my appointments, this one day I did I noticed smoke coming from this house. I stopped and noticed a man with what appeared to be a lighter at the side of his house and he then disappeared in the back. It was just a little smoke and little flames, but it was getting bigger quick. I noticed there was a man standing outside away from it, I asked if he lived there he said no. I noticed the man that appeared to be lighting the house was inside. I went up the porch and told him to come here that his house was on fire. He came and I asked if anyone was in the house he said his dad was. I told the man to go and sit in the grass. I then asked the other man to enter the house with me. He didn’t want to at first but I finally got him to so we could go and check to see if anyone was inside. We went in the house but no one was in the house. I than had to keep the other man from entering and talk to him well we waited to the E.M.S. I also was able to run to the neighbors house that was close to this house to get out because the fire was getting bigger. It felt amazing to help someone in need. The following week I went for a jog with my son, and when we jog along a path on a busy street, we got to about the 2 mile mark and I noticed a man walk in the middle of the road and cars passed and honked at him. He walked back to the side and then walked across the street, I at that time got to the intersection with my son. He again was walking in the road with his hands up standing in the road. I then yelled, “hey”, he got startled and looked up. I called him to me and got him off the road. He had tears in his eyes. I asked him if he was alright. He said no. I asked what was wrong, he said that he feels alone, and that his family and no one even cares about him. I then told him, that I care about you. He said why. I than said I do, and I care about everyone. He then started to cry and said how can someone care about someone he don’t know. I said I am not everyone, I am someone that cares and loves everyone. I was able to talk to him and encourage him to keep moving forward. I am so glad that I joined this group. It is encouraging, to me and it is helping me to grow. “THANK YOU” and “I LOVE YOU MY BROTHERS AND SISTERS”.

  63. Rosa

    It’s very true. Why is it that we often feel guilty, ashamed, or weak if we accept the help of others? Part of me believes that it is best to offer the help to others than to receive. The other part of me fees like if I accept the help I’m a failure or even more, that I have to let people know what’s going on and they will see how messed up I am or how weak I am. But as I e let people help me I’ve realized and come to experience that none of that is true. Most importantly I’ve learned that God has put those people to help me for a reason and that I need to be thankful.

    Blessing to all!

  64. Profile photo of Dkeele

    I struggle with telling this lie myself. Thank you for sharing. Praying for you.

  65. Candice

    This hits home. I hate asking for help. But God did create us to be there for each other.

  66. Profile photo of sonofksmith

    This is right on point. As funny as it sounds, sometimes it is hard to receive help. I’m not sure where this impulse comes from but I think you hit on a very true element on receiving kindness, you have to be honest.

    God commands truthfulness from us many times so that we are not causing harm to our neighbor. When we are hurting, this same command is what helps to open us up to receive blessing. None of us are superman. We’re designed to live in community.

    Thank you for this reminder Bekah!

  67. Profile photo of jeffl

    Pride can really hinder giving and receiving acts of kindness and love. A friend of mine just had major surgery, and they insisted everything was okay. I finally did a bunch of yard work for them, after they said no, we have it covered. Their lawn was almost as high as my knee. Our small group kicked in with house cleaning and meals.

    Things are much better now, and they are out of crisis mode, but please, let other help when in need, and help other when in need.

    Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples. John 13:35

  68. Larry Crenshaw

    That very last statement Bekah made, “we’re meant to lean on each other when life happens” is so true and I hope it really resonates in a lot of peoples minds today.

  69. Profile photo of Spechuls

    Wow…. this is such a powerful message. It’s important to pay attention to those who reach out to us, but it’s also so important to pay attention to those little nudges we get from God. I was aware of ” world’s biggest small group” before, but didn’t pay attention… Was “too busy”… this time I felt that familiar nudge and paid attention. Every day the messages have been so spot-on.
    For such a long time my life revolved around being a provider and caregiver. That has all changed so drastically and I have become my own caregiver with seemingly relentless health issues. I consciously focus on my blessings and adamantly resolve to stay strong. I express appreciation for the offers of help from friends and family, but still insist on doing everything for myself. I don’t recall this ever happening before, but just YESTERDAY I verbalized to myself “why am I isolating myself?”… Like I said… Spot on!!
    thank you

  70. Sheila

    This is so true of my life right now. My world has been in utter chaos. My job and vehicle, school, clinicals, and just recently my father in law died. I am exhausted and just feel like everywhere I turn is another hill to climb. I am struggling but as I have come to say way to often “this to shall pass they say” and “god brought me to it, he will bring me through it.” I have to keep reminding myself of that because otherwise I might just go bonkers. Thank you so much for sharing your story Bekah.

  71. I have learned to give without asking. I have also encouraged a friend who is having a really hard time with her wonderful young husband who is walking through Alzheimers…to write a list of needs and when someone good heartedly asks what do you need … give them a list… so often we want to help but have no idea how so a list really helps…she’s one who says “we’re ok” when they are not. When I was in a sickness I had someone ask me and I said the same “we’re ok” and they said to me. “When we were in need did you help us? Were you blessed by helping us? Well why then are you denying us the blessing of helping you?” Help away my friend!! 🙂

  72. Profile photo of CSharp

    Thanks for your words of love as being a gracious giver and a gracious receiver in times of trouble for us all.

  73. Rebecca

    This is defiantly a challenge for someone like myself! I’m not only very introverted, but also a single mom so I’m a way I feel like I deserve to be isolated. However I also believe that we have a merciful and gracious God that lives us where we are! So I’m going to ask God to give me not only the strength I need but also the wisdom to know what to do for others and how to accept help from others! Thank you for your words of wisdom! May God bless your family as you go through your difficult situation and I also pray for God’a healing touch all over your husband. God Bless.

  74. Profile photo of bridget0394

    I am so thankful for my network of friends and the love they share.

  75. Profile photo of Nanakaty58

    Bekah I understand totally your church family is always there for you.You just have to let them be.I will be praying for your husband and you.I have had 3 surgeries in the last 3yrs knee replacements and right shoulder replacement surgery if it wasn’t for God and my church family I don’t know what I would have done. It’s ok to let people who love you know your not ok God Bless You noth🙏🏻🙏🏻

  76. Sarah Y

    I need this so much!! I am one that will help everyone and outside and inside I fall apart. You are correct we need to learn to lean, to ask to receive. Not always be the giver your tank becomes empty! Thank you so much!! Awesome message!!

  77. Profile photo of Littleluminous

    I think my last post didn’t post. 🙁 Being a caregiver in general is rough. I think I was brought up to care and I do that to extremes. I will make sure everyone around me has what they need and I am left empty broken lost and hurt. Someone once said my tank is empty. We do need to step back learn to receive, lean and ask for help. Pray and listen. Loved this thank you!!

  78. Robyn Clem

    It’s so hard to take help. When my son died it was so hard to accept gifts/helped. We were not struggling financially, but everyone kept sending money. Our church organized 3 months worth of meals. It was hard to admit that cooking was hard after his sudden death. What I didn’t realize was that by helping out, it helps them too. People don’t know what else to do. They can’t make it better, but they can cook a meal or send some money.

  79. Profile photo of amanda

    Thank you Bekah for sharing your story. That is the hardest thing for me to do too. I just tell everyone I am ok when inside I might be falling apart. When I reach out, it might not be the right person and they don’t want to listen. Sometimes I just need a ear. So I internalize and it festers. I am trying to do better.

  80. Profile photo of Diane

    Needing other people in our lives does not make us “needy”, just human and real. The world teaches us to be strong and independent, which keeps us isolated and very lonely, but admitting that we have needs and allowing others into our brokenness, allows for us to “connect” with others! Someday, you will be able to be in a position that you can encourage others as you yourself have been encouraged and comforted. Blessings to you for being vulnerable and sharing what millions of us need to be reminded of…the truth!!!

  81. Profile photo of Megankhs

    I have found letting someone help you in a time of need is difficult to do for me as well. I don’t easily let others in but I have started to let others help me and it has been a blessing. I try to play the superman card but I have come to realize I’m not God and God didn’t ever want us to be a one man show! Letting others help is important!

  82. Profile photo of len

    Dont know why we always say everything is good when it is not.

  83. Kristina

    Asking for help is difficult for me because of pride. In ashamed that I cant handle things on my own and I worry that people will think less of me for always needing help. But I’m learning to live in community and that people want to help. I’m learning to just say thank you and let them know I appreciate the fact that they care.

    • Carla Lechner

      Maybe when we can’t do this ourselves, it reminds us that we need God all the more, and we’re not supposed to do this ourselves.

  84. Susie

    I so needed to hear this today. So many times, I’ve said I’m okay when I was actually feeling broken down on the inside. I’m not out of the woods yet. However, I do have a deeper appreciation for families that are suffering. I have my own health issues and it is quite trying at times. Only with God’s peace am I able to make it some days. I do feel sorry for my husband because he is the one that is on the “receiving” end of my problems. And I know that he feels helpless and yet he has stayed positive throughout. I’ve learned that it is okay to not be okay and it’s okay to share that with others or to not share with others. I don’t know what your husband is going through, but I will pray for you and for him. Thank you for this message.

  85. Profile photo of danisumrs

    Thank you for sharing your struggle. It is very hard for me also to ask for help or to just share my struggles. 99% of they time I just comment that I am fine. It is hard to learn to share, when most of the time I feel like I would be burdening someone with my whining. I hope someday I can get to where you are.

  86. Dan evensen

    Great testimony, I had a stroke May 24 th. It has been hard to let anyone, including God help. If I want peace, I need to let go.

  87. Colleen Arnold

    Thank you Bekah for sharing your recent experience and the lessons you learned through it. As women, I believe, we think we are to take care of others but don’t realize we need that sometimes as well. We feel we can carry it all on our own. But that is not how our Lord or our family of believers want us to. With prayer, love, support and giving we share each other’s burdens. God Bless Bekah, we continue to pray for you and your family.

  88. Profile photo of Kelly Tamerius

    Thank you Bekah for sharing. I really needed to hear this. I have trust issues and don’t let people help me. “I don’t need it, I can do it” which of course I can, but can’t. It adds weariness and stress of course. I try to give it all to God but I don’t ever accept the help he sends through others and reading this made me realize what I am doing. Thank you! I will pray for you to be able to do better at this as well. God bless you my sister.

  89. Carla Lechner

    I think some people let their pride get in the way of letting others help (serve) them. We were taught by Jesus to serve others. Isn’t that another way of saying to help them? By making a meal, giving a gift card, etc. as Bekah said, we are serving others. Some people, in their pride, say that they will not accept ‘charity.’ In the KJV Bible, charity equals love. So, when someone offers to help (serve) you with charity, let them! God created us to help one another, to not be alone or suffer alone. Whenever I give something to help someone, it makes me feel good inside. To not allow someone to help you is to rob that person of that ‘feeling good’ feeling. That’s not fair. It’s ok to tell others what they can do for you when you need help. It’s ok to acknowledge to yourself that you need help, that you need charity. It’s ok to accept help.

  90. Profile photo of Big Country

    So very true! When my mom was sick it was easier to refuse the help, but it was such a huge blessing when the help came anyways. I think it was one of those things we wanted to show we are fine and ok and unwilling to take the help because that means we are weak. That is not true. Accepting the help is making the load and burden we are carrying a lot lighter. Thanks for sharing!

  91. My Dad suffered from Alzhemiers last year. I wanted to take care of him and not put in any facility. I wanted him to come live with me but the doctor said not to move him that it would only make it worse. So he lived with my cousin and I would go help everyday.One of our last conversations while his mind was still right,he told me,” I’m going crazy aren’t I? And then he said something that torn my heart out, “I don’t want to lose my mind”. I told him that he had been the best Dad that I could have ever asked for and that I appreciated all he had ever done for me and that I loved him very much. He told me, “thank you for saying that.” My sister finaly got her way and had him admitted to a memory facility. I went crazy! I had told her that I wanted to take care of him and give back to him all he had given me and that he was the only one that had ever showed me the true manifestation of God’s love. Every time I would say that she would ask me why do you always have to say that and I would say because it was the truth. He showed me His love,forgiveness,patience,mercy!! I was like the prodical child but before he died he did get to see a different side of life for me. Drug free, happy and married and he always left our house smiling or laughing!!! My Dad passed away December 31,2015, I saw him take his last breathe. I have been crushed ever since.

  92. Profile photo of ylucas

    This message speaks directly to my heart. I am always trying to stay strong for others. Lord help me to do better.

  93. Profile photo of gentlespirit512

    I’m finding these readings about asking for help challenging. I never actually realize how much trouble I have asking for help until it’s too late, and I’m in a situation that I can’t handle alone with no one to help. Living with a disability made me focus on being independent for so long, I don’t know how to be “inter-dependent.” Being dependent on someone–anyone–has always seemed to be considered a bad thing with the people around me. I can’t even figure out if I’m doing it wrong or what.

    I’m trying to find my way back to people who will understand when I’m asking for help and being okay with being real enough to admit when I need it.

  94. Profile photo of Lynne King

    Oh I am the queen of ” I’m ok”! I’m the caregiver, the one who helps others! I don’t need help! I have never been comfortable accepting help from others, even my own family. I don’t want to impose. This is a tough one for me. Right now I could use some help. Just a meal, or someone to walk my dog when we have appointments ( my husband has terminal cancer, so there are a lot of appointments. Plus I work full time! ),my yard mowed, and all kinds of things like that. I never stopped to think that God may have called people in to help, and I’m not allowing it! I may need to change how I feel about accepting help now and see how God blesses me through my friends and family!

  95. Profile photo of GRG

    Bekah, I’ve been praying for you! Then my husband wound up in the hospital on August 6th. He hasn’t been home since. Too often, I’ve found myself telling others “I’m fine.” When my co workers gave me money and gift cards, I too broke down in private. It is hard to admit we aren’t super women! I thank God for loving me enough to let me lean on Him!

  96. Profile photo of Vanessa Lawrence Mundy

    Thank you for sharing. Sometimes we feel we should be strong and battle alone-we are all guilty of this-butt with GOD we are ever alone.

  97. Profile photo of Stephanie H

    I don’t like accepting help when I am in need, but what if it is God sending the help? I am like you, Bekah. I am always apologizing when someone is giving me a gift from their heart. It is a hard lesson to learn. To accept a gift and to stop apologizing for things that is not your fault. Thank you for sharing.🤗

  98. Profile photo of Teresa

    Great message. Thanks for sharin. Many times I think, I got this but community is so important. It’s nice to have help even and especially when we don’t ask.

  99. Deborah H

    It is always better to give than to receive. But it can be much harder to receive than to give. Don’t take someone’s joy of giving or serving away. Be grateful for those God has put in your life. Say thank you.

  100. Velissa

    Relying on your community of believers is so true. Our church was a huge support to us when we had our 2 1/2 year old drown 9 months ago. You definitely need to be open and allow people to help. Let God’s body minister to you. As you heal there will be opportunities for you to help others.

  101. Profile photo of Missy P

    Yes Bekah.. we need to lean more on the people God puts in our lives .

  102. Dianne

    Thank you for such wise and helpful words!

  103. Leann

    It is quite awkward to open up at times when you’re not sure if the other person just meant a standard hello, or if they actually want to know how you are. I have found that when I do share honestly that it may surprise the other person, but they will always engage in the answer. It can help the others as much as you to open opportunities to share and support other Christians.

  104. Profile photo of SweetHEARTCORINTH13

    That’s refreshing it sounds scary to do, I’m going to try and reach out I’m trying to hold on to way too much. Thanks!!!!

  105. Wendy

    Admitting and accepting Gods grace from others is sometimes hard. Since I. started this serious I have been listening to the prompting of God to do random acts of kindness. Not once has someone not appreciated whatever it was.
    I believe whether you are the one giving or receiving you need to listen to the nudge from God.

  106. Martha Strayer

    This was meant for me. I haven’t belong to or regularly attended services for the past 4 years because of a situation at my last church. God has been nudging me to get back to church and get over my hurts from the past. I will step up my efforts to find a church!

  107. Robin Wilson

    I’m glad you are learning this lesson early in life. I didn’t! Years ago I was overwhelmed by life, and like you, Bekkah, I always told everyone I was fine. I finally burned out. I couldn’t do anymore. I got depressed and angry, I turned from God and felt that He abandoned me. Something I didn’t believe He would do. It was 10 years before I could see that God never left me. He was always there and just answering prayer differently than I expected. All of the loving people He sent my way were there because God moved them to want to help and I refused them. I haven’t understood that until WAY-FM was brought into my life. Thank you God for opening my eyes. Thank you Bekkah for sharing your story.

  108. Joani Pederson

    Thank you Berkshire for this reminder that we are a community and by allowing others to help us during our struggles you are allowing them to follow a calling given to them! I’ve walked in a very similar path as yours more than once and have always struggled with letting those around me in to help me.

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    Sometimes it’s hard to show weakness to others. We’re supposed to be so strong in our faith that we can just give it to God, and be okay. But it doesn’t usually work that way. We can call on God, but we still feel it. So we still need help while going through the situation. So, if we let people know we are hurting; and let them just be there for us;and do the same for them, we’ll be doing what God has called us to do. Thank you Bekah. Sometimes we need to open our eyes, and our hearts.

  110. Johnny

    Very truth I never let anyone help me.

  111. Profile photo of Ami

    Thank you! Yet another lesson God is teaching me!

  112. Stacey Tomlinson

    Thank you for your honesty! I feel the same way. I am a teacher and always tell others I’m fine even if I’m not because I see how my students struggle and I feel that my struggles are far less important than theirs. I have come to realize that I have to let others help me so I can be the best teacher for them which makes their struggles lessen.

  113. Profile photo of Becky Wolberg

    I have gone thru the same kind of year … My husband was in and out of ERs and hospitals the first 6 months of this year. I don’t go to church so I know I’m missing out on a community helping during my time in need. Unfortunately..I haven’t gotten much help but it is what it is. I struggle to remember God has this but I know he does. It’s hard because I know the outcome of my caregiving is more than likely the death of my husband. Another thing I have no control over and when.

  114. Roberto Rosario

    I can relate people sometimes ask us how we are. And its like an automatic response that we say i’m fine. How can we change our minds or actions.

  115. Betty-Ann

    This has been a hard lesson learned by experience. I was the caregiver for my father-in-law in Virginia. I was away from all my family & friends here in Alabama trying to take care of Jack along with my two small children when I started having major health issues too. I would ask God “Why me? What have I done to let You down?” I felt His reply when dealing with hospice & my new church family started helping by bringing meals or sitting with my father-in-law to let me take the kids to the mountain to play in the stream. I was shown that there are times when we need each other & are allowing others to feel blessed by serving. I learned it does not always cost money to be a blessing. That a card can make a difference.

  116. Pam Walkup

    This really hit home with me as my husband is struggling with some serious health issues. It is also very hard on the partner. I often feel helpless to assist and drained from the stress. Health issues take a negative toll regardless of how positive you try to be. Insecurity and fear sneak in. It often becomes depressing and stressful to be the sole bread winner, all while trying to keep a positive front and smile on your face.

  117. Kathleen Kauffman

    I don’t want to be helped. Aren’t I supposed to be strong? I have cried in the mornings believing I won’t have the financial support to live along with my dog, Buster, and provide for him as well as myself. I need to take care of me, but are people going to help me in such a crisis? Aren’t I supposed to be strong? I haven’t cried the past couple days. Is this good? Maybe it is, and, maybe, I’m not so worried. I feel like I’ve given it to God.