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Matthew 18:23-35

23 “Therefore, the Kingdom of Heaven can be compared to a king who decided to bring his accounts up to date with servants who had borrowed money from him. 24 In the process, one of his debtors was brought in who owed him millions of dollars. 25 He couldn’t pay, so his master ordered that he be sold—along with his wife, his children, and everything he owned—to pay the debt.

26 “But the man fell down before his master and begged him, ‘Please, be patient with me, and I will pay it all.’ 27 Then his master was filled with pity for him, and he released him and forgave his debt.

28 “But when the man left the king, he went to a fellow servant who owed him a few thousand dollars. He grabbed him by the throat and demanded instant payment.

29 “His fellow servant fell down before him and begged for a little more time. ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay it,’ he pleaded. 30 But his creditor wouldn’t wait. He had the man arrested and put in prison until the debt could be paid in full.

31 “When some of the other servants saw this, they were very upset. They went to the king and told him everything that had happened. 32 Then the king called in the man he had forgiven and said, ‘You evil servant! I forgave you that tremendous debt because you pleaded with me. 33 Shouldn’t you have mercy on your fellow servant, just as I had mercy on you?’ 34 Then the angry king sent the man to prison to be tortured until he had paid his entire debt.

35 “That’s what my heavenly Father will do to you if you refuse to forgive your brothers and sisters from your heart.”

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Forgiveness is a must if you love Jesus. That’s what Brant Hansen believes. He gets to the nitty-gritty of this a story and his reasoning (in a highly amusing way) in today’s video.


Bonus Content!

Brant also did a great TED Talk on being un-offendable. You can check it out below.

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I really dig the way you explain things! Also really appreciate your book.
Thanks for sharing and using such great visual aids!
If we are Christ followers– we do not have a choice–FORGIVE.
Keep doing what you’re doing, B, It’s awesome!


Love his book!!


have a good day!


Thank you Brant for reminding me of a truth that I have long ascribed to. I KNOW what God has forgiven in me, how could I dare to not to extend that same forgiveness to anyone else. Regardless of my perception of anything they may have done.

Rebie WAY-FM

Of course, it can still be hard, but man, this puts it into perspective, doesn’t it?

Deidra Waggoner

Love your insight and your heart to show how great forgiveness is.


Brant’s video and Ted Talk are phenomenal! Thanks for posting these for today’s topic.

Rebie WAY-FM

He explains it well! Thanks for watching. 🙂


So so good and challenging! Thank you!!!!!


We don’t have a choice. We must practice forgiveness. Thank you for this reminder!

Trevor Poling

Straight talk. Thanks

Aimee Newman

Thank you Brant! I love that you were straight out… “you don’t have a choice, if you are a believer..”
Jesus died so that I could be forgiven. BAM.. Straight up.. Died and asked God for me to be forgiven.. Even in his most torturous moment, He was thinking of even me… and in order for me to say “I’m a believer” I have to be able to forgive.. (UGH) not an easy task for sure… reality check…

Loved this! I’m working with God right now how to let my anger and frustration go quicker (like the zebra example). ???? I’ve entered into an awareness phas and when I’m angry I start praying and talking to God about it. I ask Him to help me not react or respond to my flesh in the moment and be ugly back. It is a process for sure! But I am so blessed to have a Heavenly Father that is so patent and so personal that I can call on Him at anytime and I know He is right there with… Read more »

Very cool, CarrieAnn. Praying for your journey of joy w with our loving Father & Savior.


Wow! I learned a lot about anger n letting go of it! I know for a fact that unforgivness n anger can kill you! It will kill you physically, emotionally and spiritually! It’s hard to do it however I know that after doing it… you will free!!!


Thank you Brant for sharing with us! Tell Producer Sherry I love to hear her laugh! Thanks


Thank you! I sure will! I love it, too.


Yes, we must get rid of any anger and forgive! It’s an obligation and releases deliverance for both parts.

Big Country

Straight to the point! Thanks for this great powerful lesson.

Brant thank you, I love how logical and simplified you made the web of forgiveness and anger, when we struggle to untangle it so often. I actually am a new mother and have been dealing with so much anger and resentment toward my ex as he left the baby and I when I was pregnant, totally unforeseen. I have justfied my anger so often by as you mentioned “righteous anger” although I knew my anger and forgiveness was not right before the Lord. The Lord wants to carry are burdens but it is so hard to surrender them, this video… Read more »
Laura Wilkett

Wow, Brant! Just…wow. I’ve heard so much about forgiveness lately, but nothing that resonated more than this. Thank you for sharing this way.

tracy miller

Technically we all have choices. But, I get that your point is we can choose to be obedient to what God calls us as a believer. Or we can choose to be disobedient, hard-hearted and choose to take on those consequences. There are always choices. Good or bad. And they all have different ramifications.

It’s not easy to forgive those who have hurt me. I can tell them I’m choosy g to forgive them….but sometimes it takes time to get past that offence. I have to work on it daily. And just when I think I am past it something will trigger a memory and over it goes again.. But I don’t bring it back up to that person. I may not trust them again but I will move on. If I don’t I’ll feelings will eat me and you alive. Thanks for sharing Brand. I listen to you almost every day. Love you… Read more »

Thank you, Brant, and everyone else in this group. It is a choice. Our enemy wants us to own the thoughts of anger and unforgiveness that he put in our head. James 1:12-16. Jesus wants us to imitate Him by putting on love and forgiveness. GAL.5:22-26. Col 3:2-10.Eph 2:1-4.
It ain’t easy in these sin infested bodies but through Him, it can be done. And when you do, you will know it is through His supernatural power working in you. And you will be amazed and glorify His Holy Name.


Hey Brant,
Thanks for telling me the truth that forgiveness is not an option. No matter how difficult to do, it does not compare to what Jesus went thru for us. God Bless you, man.

Missy P

Hi Brandt,

Thank you so much for the good work that you do. I listen to your show everyday and I am always amazed at how easy you make the hard stuff seem, and I admire you for having fun with something serious. I enjoy laughing with you and Sherry..her laugh is infectious. Your light is one that shines brightly. God’s blessings on you.

Tina Ledbetter

Great way to tell a story of forgiveness. Loved it. Thanks for sharing. Forgiveness is a command. We are to forgive as God forgives us.

Melodie LeRoy

Thank you so much for your video. It really touched my heart. I really liked the part about how we think we have the right to be angry when we don’t. I needed to hear that.
Proverbs 3:5-6


Thank you, Brant, for just telling it the way it is.


loved this. thank you

Cute presentation but it just not what the Bible teaches. If Jesus really did forgive everyone on the cross then why did 3000 repent and get saved soon after. He also asked God to take this cup from him, but obediently he still went to the cross. Luke 17:3 “If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them, and if they repent, forgive them.” Today, it sounds nice to take the “if” out so there are no conditions to forgiveness, but it’s still there. If someone repents, then YES we have to forgive. God didn’t forgive us unconditionally, I… Read more »

The Lord told us to forgive . And we are to stay away from being trampled on “in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, withdrawl yourselves from every brother that walketh disorderly” 2 Ths 3.6


Good morning, Brant, your message was incredible to hear. Thank you, thank you, thank you. You helped encourage me to reach out to my father! Our relationship has been very unhealthy. I pray that Jesus will heal our hearts.
You are an encouragement!