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Luke 7:44-48

44Then he turned to the woman and said to Simon, “Look at this woman kneeling here. When I entered your home, you didn’t offer me water to wash the dust from my feet, but she has washed them with her tears and wiped them with her hair. 45 You didn’t greet me with a kiss, but from the time I first came in, she has not stopped kissing my feet. 46 You neglected the courtesy of olive oil to anoint my head, but she has anointed my feet with rare perfume.

47I tell you, her sins—and they are many—have been forgiven, so she has shown me much love. But a person who is forgiven little shows only little love.” 48 Then Jesus said to the woman, Your sins are forgiven.

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We’re jumping right in! Darren from We Are Messengers starts off with a POWERFUL story showing us exactly what forgiveness looks like.

If God told you to confess everything wrong you’ve ever done to your spouse… would you do it? That’s what happened to Darren after he started following Jesus. His wife’s response… let’s just say it radically changed his view of faith and forgiveness forever.

 

Just before this video released, Darren was in a terrible accident on tour. Everyone in their crew is ok, but their tour bus and many of their belongings were burned in the fire.

It was a rough night. Join us in praying for everyone involved. If you want to help them replace a lot of their equipment so they can continue the tour, check out this link to their You Caring page.

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114 Comments on "Day 1: Would You Forgive Your Spouse for Committing Adultery?"

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Brenda
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Very moving. Because I know the MANY things I have been forgiven, I am compelled to extend that same love and forgiveness to those I meet. How else will they know what the love of God looks like?

Pastor Dave WAY-FM
WAY-FM

Very simply stated but eloquently shown. Thanks Brenda for being a modern-day example of the Luke 7 woman.

Simon Edghill
Member

what a confirmation scripture. This was the same scripture that we read in church yesterday and hearing it again for the second time in 2 days is just an eye opener. I like as Darren reminds us that we must “love much, for we have been forgiven much”.
Praise God.

Pastor Dave WAY-FM
WAY-FM

Isn’t it amazing when God speaks to us the same way 2 days in a row? What a confirmation of living in His Light today! I wonder what His revelation will be tomorrow. What a loving, personal God we have!

Erica Jackson
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This is the second day I’ve heard that scripture too! Praise the Lord. He really is good.

Beth
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I don’t think it is ever God’s will for us to sin, but He can use our pain for his good. In my marriage, I have done wrong and so has my now ex-husband. Even though we are no longer together, the pain & anger continues. I am hoping to be able to forgive both myself and my ex-husband.

Rob Price
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Hello Beth, you are right God hates sin. Satan rules on earth and he causes sin in all our lives. We all sin and fall short of the glory of God. Jesus died for the sin of man, this allow man to ask God directly for forgiveness of our sin. Jesus taught us forgiveness when he died on the cross he ask God to forgive those that had tortured and killed Him. We can be forgiven if we believed in the Lord Jesus Christ BUT we must also forgive to be forgiven. Having said this my question to you is,… Read more »
denisenhammer@yahoo.com
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denisenhammer@yahoo.com

Beth, I am committing to praying for forgiveness over yourself and for your ex husband. It’s difficult but I know with God’s helpit can be given.

Carrie
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I needed this today. My dad, we found out, cheated on my mom of 45 years. He didn’t admit it,this is what hurts alot. My mom found out by other way not because he will admit it. I pray for him as I know the lie and guilt are eating him up. My mom is a strong faith filled woman but you can see the hurt. With God’s help they will be able to get through this whatever may happen.

Pastor Dave WAY-FM
WAY-FM

Yes, we are all stubborn even when we’re wrong, aren’t we? Jesus had to stop Saul on the Damascus Road. Praying for Christ’s light & calling to be known by your dad today … and your mom to have the hurt washed by His blood today.

Turtlefrog52
Member

I loved the description of gra, first off. It seems English doesn’t have a lot of good words to describe great love.

When Darren began to talk about forgiveness setting us free, not necessarily for the other person, it fit so perfectly into what I’ve been talking to one of my closest friends about. He has a hard time forgiving people in his life, and he has suffered because of it. I pray God will move through this video and biggest small group and touch his heart.

Carolina
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I never thought I would forgive my husband for adultery, but God put it in my heart to forgive him and stand for my marriage. I found it easy to forgive my husband and the other woman, but I could not forgive my friends and his family that seemed to support his extramarital relationship. It took a long time to forgive them. Now that I have, I have peace and joy regardless that my husband is still with his mistress. I forgive my husband almost everyday, and I know this is the path God wants me to take. In my… Read more »
Bornelus
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God is able and good. I’m standing for my marriage as well.Forgiveness is not easy. I’ve forgiven my husband but not my mother in law. God will get us through this. You’re in my prayers.

Pastor Dave WAY-FM
WAY-FM

When we trust our loving Lord in faith, then we will see things happen beyond what we could ever imagine or do, because He is the Infinite God Who freely gives us His Abundant Grace. Thanks for your witness, Carolina. You know our Faithful Father so much greater through this.

Ladonna Huffman
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My first marriage ended in divorce because he cheated on me I don’t know God than we separate finally I divorce him July 2014 we were married 23 years he left me and our son in 2004 for another women separate for year 5 months after he left us I find Jesus like I never know Jesus I have forgiven my ex husband 2014 I remarried my husband now is nothing like my first husband He loves Jesus as we go to church all the time he is so of Jesus to learn about him we will be married about… Read more »
mh0912
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thank you for sharing your story.

Angeliz
Member

Amazing word. Thank you.
A perfect reminder that we don’t deserve his forgiveness, but his love for us is greater than any sin. And even still, chooses to forgive us. I am thankful for his forgiveness.

kolleen
Member

Funny, the question of forgiveness has been on my heart all morning before seeing this. I am struggling with forgiving my soon-to-be ex husband, not of adultery but of other betrayals. I know I am called to forgive but I’m finding it so hard! I think because he has shown no repentance it is so much harder for me to forgive him, even though I know must. I will continue to pray to God to lead me to forgiveness.

Pastor Dave WAY-FM
WAY-FM

What rich comments! Yes, forgiveness is hard – and none of us can measure its difficulty for someone – but I am so glad you know God’s Amazing Grace which will carry you through this journey every step. Praying with you that you see the “green pastures” & “still waters” that our Shepherd-Lord will lead you to.

pmccoy68
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Thank you so much for sharing your forgiveness story. This has hit home for me because I am at a stage where I have been estranged with my father and we are just now starting to communicate again. Your words have challenged me and I thank you for your openness in sharing.

Pastor Dave WAY-FM
WAY-FM

Hallelujah! God loves reconciliation. Prayers for God’s mercy upon you both.

Taelor Barnette
Member

This was so good! I have a question for anyone who wants to answer. I am 26 and nowhere near married, but I know that adultery is the one Biblical reason for divorce. Do you think God would only lay an assignment like this (confessing what you’ve done, forgiving the adulterer) on the hearts of a couple that he knew was going to stay together through it?

Thanks in advance!

Angie
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I forgave my husband of 13+years of adultery. At first it was not something I wanted to do. I never thought I would stay. But I listened to God and my husband became a Christian, was able to stop drinking, and is now a good parent to our four daughters. He was very remorseful and sought forgiveness and repentance. I know God would still loves me even if I had left my marriage. There is not one answer to fit every story… I don’t think God allows it to happen to some & not to others. I think it is… Read more »
SNS
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I am going through this as we speak..I never imagined this happening but I truly believe God brought me to this place for a reason and it has certainly brought me closer to Him…knowing that others have gone through this and been victorious is so comforting.I struggle with bitterness and depression right now.I’m trusting in God for my comfort and peace that all will be made new!

Joani Pederson
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I don’t believe that God only places this on couples that He knows will stay together. I was married for 32 years when my husband cheated on me. I was so hurt and angry at first, then Fear set in, then even though I had fallen out of love with him years ago, I still loved him. I talked to him about us getting counseling because we had taken a vow before God and family, my husband took 3 days before he answered me and had decided he wanted his mistress more then our marriage. Of course he didn’t say… Read more »
Pastor Dave WAY-FM
WAY-FM

A great question … that many good, spiritual people would differ on. My thoughts – Confession & Repentance are what God is desiring from us; His infinite Mercy & Grace takes care of the rest. He is so amazingly magnanimous! Pre-marital counseling is essential (as for all couples), but specific counsel is necessary regarding prior marriages, co-habitation, etc. & what has been learned through them. Aren’t you glad God takes our failures, redeems them & continues to build His Faithful work in us (Ephesians 2.8-10; Philippians 1.6)?

Ashley
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Thank you for you explanation to that question above! This whole message as been a huge eye opener I am so happy I was able to see this today! I’m praying for all of you to continue having faith and moving forward with everything!

maxxabijah@hotmail.com
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maxxabijah@hotmail.com
Hi Taelor, I used to think that adultery was the one biblical reason for divorce as well but then I heard a sermon from my pastor and he said there is nowhere in the Bible where it says it is ok for two believers to get a divorce (for adultery or any reason). I’ve looked myself and all I can find are the following: Matt 19:6 Mark 10:9 1 Cor 7 This was hard for me to believe at first (and I definitely do not advocate for someone to stay in an abusive relationship) but I’ve come to believe that… Read more »
AWP
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I hurt because I know that I am not a priority in my dad’s life. He has his life, and i have never been able to get close. I have my own family now but it still hurts that months go by and I don’t hear a word from him. When I think of all the ways I have felt unwanted and unloved, I want to get bitter and angry and treat him the way he has treated me. But, I remember what I have been forgiven of and know that because of that I am to forgive him as… Read more »
shawn
Member
This is a really huge question, and one I would think a majority of people would struggle to answer. I know for myself, when I was married, neither myself or my wife was free of this sin. I did find out about her indiscretions, and I do not know if she ever was aware of mine. We have been divorced for 6 years now and I have gone and made an attempt at apology for all the things I did wrong while married, but I did not choose to expand upon what those things were as I didn’t wanna cause… Read more »
shawn
Member
This is a really huge question, and one I would think a majority of people would struggle to answer. I know for myself, when I was married, neither myself or my wife was free of this sin. I did find out about her indiscretions, and I do not know if she ever was aware of mine. We have been divorced for 6 years now and I have gone and made an attempt at apology for all the things I did wrong while married, but I did not choose to expand upon what those things were as I didn’t wanna cause… Read more »
Joni
Member

I appreciate the humility and honesty in the video. Yes, I find when I think about all that God has forgiven me for, then it is much easier to forgive others.

sasunday
Member
Wow. Just…wow. The stark honesty is amazing and moving. My marriage is on the brink of destruction at the moment. My husband has consciously made the choice to no longer love me. We have had some major issues including his adultry and my attempt at suicide. It was about a year ago that he told me he is leaving me and no longer wants to even try to love me. He has zero forgiveness for me and he is a very sad and bitter man as a result. I struggled greatly with forgiveness and trust after his second affair which… Read more »
Pastor Dave WAY-FM
WAY-FM

Your obedience to the Lord is incredible. You truly know the depths of His Grace!

Sarah McCormick
Member
First off….this entire page made me cry my eyes out. The verses, the video..I broke down crying and pushed my breakfast away. I have been where Darren has been. The only difference is, Jesus extends forgiveness to me where my husband does not. He holds hatred and ridicule over me ofte…but I know he is hurt. He says the meanest things a husband can say to a wife to me on a regular basis…but I know he is hurt, so I forgive him I am constantly being beaten with all of my mistakes. This past 2 years has been the… Read more »
Pastor Dave WAY-FM
WAY-FM

I have prayed for our Miracle-working God to do the impossible for you. He loves reconciliation!

Amanda Carroll
Guest

I am in your EXACT same situation. My husband is relentlessy unforgiving about my life before I was a Christian. I know he is hurt also, but he was the one raised a Christian, not I. It’s been hell to put it nicely. Goodness I thought I was the only woman on earth in this situation…

Susan
Member

Thank you for honesty in relating to story of woman who has been forgiven much. We all are her -for any sin of thought or action is offense to holy God. I need to turn and reflect what Jesus has done for me by forgiving too. I would love for someone to say they see Jesus (& forgiveness) in me.

Myfaithwillstand1622
Member

Forgiving my husband of adultery was very hard. I always thought he is too good for that, but no one is I guess. It hurt deep for him to come out and tell me the truth 3 years after the incident. I knew I would have to forgive him for me to grow as a christian. I couldn’t let his sinful act change my perception of God wants us to do. Is love others above all else like he did. What he did was wrong and he is remorseful for it, but we are stronger for it too.

Member

Thank you for sharing your story. It was very touching & you have a true heart for God! 🙏🏼❤

Crystal
Member

Daren thank you for sharing and being so open. I have had a hard time forgiving my niece who is a drug addict. So going this study will walk me through it.

Vicki
Guest

WOW…..Darren, I so admire you for stepping out in faith so boldly!

pastormatt
Member

I will implement the word Gra in my vocabulary and it may even make it into a sermon soon. I too have been forgiven much, so i should forgive much!

Spechuls
Member

There are so many comments from people struggling to forgive the people closest to them, but it seems that they are not recognizing the biggest mountain to climb. We must first forgive ourselves and that is probably the most difficult. When we openly and honestly confess our sins to God and truly accept God’s forgiveness our focus changes. When our hearts are cleansed…emptied of the trash…the capacity to hold love is incredible. We will never readily forgive others until we are ready to truly forgive ourselves and have faith in God’s forgiveness.

Pastor Dave WAY-FM
WAY-FM

So true … God does not withhold His forgiveness. I must not either. It is indeed true freedom in His Spirit!

Chip
Member
I just had my divorce finalized. I fought it for 3 years trying everything i could. I don’t know for sure but my wife started living with someone i thought was my friend before the divorce was finalized. I was hurt for a long time. It took a lot of prayers before i realized that i did not deserve Gods forgiveness. So what made me better than my ex-wife? Nothing at all! I have forgiven them for everything i know and don’t know. It lifted a hug weight off of me. I know that when the Lord calls me home… Read more »
lorilu
Member
Incredible story shared by Darren! What a blessing to be forgiven. As a young single parent, I’ve often had to “own up” to my less than stellar parenting skills.i parented with too little patience and too high expectations. My way or the highway! Feeling responsible for everything, I overcompensated in all the wrong ways… I’ve apologized and asked for forgiveness from my now adult child, many times. I am also blessed to be forgiven… Not all families forgive. I realize how very important it it, to share that grace and forgiveness with others, especially since I certainly didn’t (still do… Read more »
Cody D
Member

Today’s message makes me think of Colossians 3:13, which says,”Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.”

I find it the hardest to forgive those who are closest to me, especially my parents. When we get in arguments, things are said and done that we regret (sometimes we say downright mean things) and we are angry at each other for a while. Thankfully, we haven’t let these things push us apart as a family. Thankfully, we forgive each other.

Chris
Member
Forgiving adultery is very difficult, as a wife who has struggled with this I can tell you that I have had to pull every bit of GRACE God has to offer to forgive and hold my marriage together … this betrayal is one of the hardest for a marriage to move past. Jesus’s examples of forgiveness is our model to follow but it is a very difficult road and for those who have never been there I just want you to also remember that judging the women who is able to forgive does not make anyone’s world better please be… Read more »
Faith Barnett
Guest
Thank you Darren for being so open with your experience. It is a testimony of God’s love for us. Forgiveness, though it may be very difficult to offer it is the most freeing feeling. Like you stated, when we forgive we release ourselves from a heavy burden we have been carrying. At the same time if the confession is sincere ii also frees the forgiven person and brings that relationship to a whole new level of love – God’s love. I too have been forgiven many, many sins therefore who why would I not be willing to forgive others?
Julie Pitts
Member

Clarifying our lives through the Gospel of Jesus always seems to lead to a better understanding of him and our purpose on Earth.

Just Me
Member

No. I have not been able to. I tried.. Thought I did forgive him..But I realized I hadn’t. Almost 30 years he did this. Guess I’m not as good as others …..They can forgive…I just can’t… Our whole life together has been lies as and his I guess being a sex addict.

sonny
Guest
I started a growth group at my church a few weeks ago. On forgiveness. The book is by Dr. Bruce Wilkinson, before reading this book I was forgiving all wrong . I never noticed the first line after the Lord’s prayer before and am taking it took it to a whole different meaning. I am working on forgiving but want to do it correctly this time. I have forgiven her my way and working on God’s way. Darren I pray you are all ok and thank you for all you do. I saw you at Spanish river church in Boca… Read more »
Willyfrogrw
Member

What a testimony, God has forgiven us, we need to forgive yourselves so we can see the wonders that God has in store for us, me.

Sharmika Brookins
Member

WOW 😶😮

Jennifer
Member

Wow!I see God working in my life about forgiveness. I’m so thankful that the theme of World’s Biggest Small Group is forgiveness because I know God is speaking directly to me. Thank you! Thank you to Darren for sharing his story. Such an encouragement for so many. And, to Heidi for loving your husband despite. You’re an amazing woman and your actions show us God’s love for all. Like Darren said, he fell in love with Jesus. It’s the encounter of her forgiveness that he fell in love with Jesus and saw Jesus in Heidi!

Member

This was good to hear today. I’ve been in 2 bad marriages and engaged again. All 3 cheated on me. Right wrong or indifferent I want to be married to the right man. But even them it has really left a mark on my ❤.
Even though your wife must have lots of thoughts of what is it in sure she was relieved when you confessed to her because that meant you trusted her love for you.
Thanking God that all of you were unharmed and prayers that all tha5 was lost will be returned to you.

BlueJay
Member
Darren, I am humbled by how open and honest you were about your sins. I would not, and could not, be as open. I am ashamed of many manipulative and hurtful things I have said and done in my marriage. I agree with the comment that we must forgive ourselves as well. However, I find that very difficult knowing I would make the same choices again. As I listened to Darren’s testimony and read the various replies, I have given serious thought to how I would react if I found out my husband had an affair. I don’t think I… Read more »
chenglis
Member

I love the world’s biggest small group. It’s one of my favorite experiences ever. Thank you WAY-FM for holding these online groups.

Glenda
Guest
I forgave my husband of adultery. He had an emotional affair with a woman. It started through Facebook and then she began calling him and texting him. She was trying to convince him to leave me mad our 2 children. I found out about it and when I confronted him he took his phone and crushed it so I couldn’t see the messages between them. He wanted to leave and go to California to his parents (which conviently the girl was only a 1/2 an hour away from. He ended up staying but for the first 3 months after he… Read more »
aridgeway
Member
I always thought that if my husband ever cheated on me that that would be the end. I would walk away and never look back. Then it happened, and the worst part about it was that I saw it coming and there was nothing that I could do to stop it. We were both in a very dark place at the time trying to cope with depression, for different reasons, and needing each other in ways neither of us were capable of at the time. He told me that he had been with this other woman and that he wanted… Read more »
minn08
Member

This was my first time with the world’s biggest small group. What a way to get started!!!! Thanks for making this such an easy thing to incorporate into my day. I know I will take away something strong and positive.

Lynda
Guest

Someone hurt me with rejection. It took two years to stop beating myself up over my mistakes and feeling foolish. I tell myself that I have forgiven the other person, but how do I know it is true forgiveness, not merely shrugging off the hurt?

Pastor Dave WAY-FM
WAY-FM

Forgiveness does not mean that I will not continue to struggle with wanting to “take back” my forgiveness. That’s just who we are in our hearts. But forgiving in the power of Jesus means that as soon as I start considering unforgiveness, I give the whole matter back to God & ask for His “recreation” in my heart to move forward in freedom & new opportunities. I trust Him for my present & my future.

Robin
Member

By forgiving and loving others, we reflect the love and grace of our Lord and Savior. If we can’t forgive someone, why do we expect our Lord to forgive us?

erica_h80
Member

I needed to be reminded that I’m forgiven. I want to love and forgive like that.

Newmother312
Member

I love this! This opened my eyes to so many things that I have been holding on to in my life that just keep making me angry. Hearing these words and really hearing the beauty of forgiveness, I know I need to forgive and move forward as we have been called to do. Great way to start this journey!!

Erica
Guest
I love this scripture and hearing his story. It reminds me of a study my church small group did of The War Room. When it comes to situations of adultry and harm in our marriage we have to remember who the real traitor is, satan. he is the one trying to destroy what God has put together. I have never experienced this in my marriage, but my mother in law has and watching her gracefully accept things and have so much faith in God and not getting mad at anyone is such an amazing example of showing Gods love even… Read more »
Bridget Madero
Guest
I am really struggling with forgiveness right now towards my ex husband who committed adultry and tore our family apart. I totally resent what he did to us and what he does now. I know being a woman of God that I have to forgive him but I’m just having a very hard time doing that right now. I have heard from my Pastor–read about it and hear others say that forgiveness will help the healing process, as well as, set me free. I try to forgive him and when I feel like I am ready to, he does something… Read more »
JennyChestnut
Member

Praying for you and your crew, Darren! Thank you for sharing!

Missy P
Member

Because of God’s grace, I can face another day. When I struggle with forgiveness, I ask God to forgive me. This process is ongoing.

GPS
Guest
My husband had a massive stroke two and a half years ago at age 48. The man he became afterwards was completely different from the man I married 25 years earlier. A year ago next month he moved out of our bedroom to a spare bedroom with no real reason other than he said he felt like he was keeping me up at night because he couldn’t sleep well. He had become more withdrawn from me and our marriage and our family. I looked at his phone one day and found some very inappropriate websites he had been visiting. I… Read more »
Wen
Member

Wow I hope that someday I feel the ability to forgive as Heidi and Jesus. So inspiring.

Synergetichealg
Member

Darren, I too know what it is like to be forgiven for adultery. When my husband forgave me within 24 hrs of sharing all that I had done my heart wept. I knew my husband was a man of God and how much God loves me. Because there is no way that could have ever happened without God in our life. We just celebrated 20 yrs of marriage this past week.

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